A Facebook friend of mine had the perfect thing to say about this creep:
This is why, despite being a nonbeliever and a scientifically minded person, I hesitate to identify as a member of the skeptic/atheist community- it is dominated by pompous white men who find doing things like categorizing rape into different “levels” of badness, and playing logical fallacy “gotcha” games with anyone hurt by this, to be a diverting intellectual exercise. In truth, they may act like this is nothing more than a fun little project, but this is to hide how much emotional validation and sexual enjoyment they derive from this game. Their intent is to do harm, and to assert power by the further gaslighting and violation of boundaries of those who protest. The more you ask them to stop, the more excited they get, and the more they will try to pull you into a “debate” and harm you further. This is not done in the spirit of true inquiry and debate; it is abuse disguised in the sterile wrapping of “discourse.”
This is absolutely true. In fact, one of my good friends posted an article calling out this sort of behavior to a FB atheist group we both belonged to, and it started a massive discussion where a handful of men turned very creepy. It ended with myself and a few other women calling them out on it, and eventually I was banned from the group for saying that someone, who had spiraled into making fun of rape and rape victims, as a a violent person whom women should stay away from.
And it just is really awful because, you know, you try to point out this bad behavior to atheists at large, and they just argue with you- tell you something like, “Well, you should see what religious people say/do!” and will just completely write you off no matter what you say.
They’ll just post images like this and call it a day:
And you explain to them that, just because a poll asks if someone supports different things, or claims to be less prejudiced, it doesn’t mean that they are/they are a good ally to these causes.
It’s like, atheists bend over backwards to explain string theory and quantum mechanics to a religious person in an effort to tell them that their god is fake, but you tell them that people can say one thing on a poll and actually do something else, and they don’t get it.
I’ve even had fellow atheists try to insult me by saying that I’m actually a Christian or a Muslim trying to “give them a bad name.” No, you do that all on your own.